How do you expect the best of your students? How do you verbalize that expectation? Here are five steps to blossom anyone at anytime. These are taken from The 7 Laws of the Learner by Dr. Bruce Wilkinson.
1. EXAMINE the person you want to blossom.
2. EXPOSE what the person did. When you see a person act in a way you can use for his/her good, then let that person know you saw it. You can begin with, "You just did _______________," and reveal to the person what you observed. For example Johnny just received an A on a very difficult test. Your antenna is out and you think, Here is a moment where I can really blossom my student." So you say, "Johnny! You just earned an A in science!" Then pause. You let your statement settle down in Johnny's heart. Don't neglect this pause, it's very important.
3. Describe you EMOTION about what the person did. Tell Johnny how you feel about that excellent paper. Say, "That makes me feel _____________." For instance, you could tell Johnny, "That makes me feel so proud of you." Then pause again. Let it hit home. I guarantee that any child, even a teenager, will enjoy that moment!
4. Tell the person what you EXPECT of him in the future. Up to this point you haven't blossomed anyone. All you've done is give a compliment. This is the step where you tell the person what you "expect" from him and share your "expectation" by stating, "I believe you are becoming ________________." When you tell someone what you expect of him/her, you're being a visionary. God is calling you to be a visionary parent, teacher, boss, worker, pastor...
5. ENDEAR yourself to the person through appropriate touch. If it's a young boy, you might give him a one of those manly nudges. If it's a little girl, come down to her level and gently squeeze her hand. If it's a coworker, you could put your hand on the person's shoulder. For me personally, I would not literally touch someone of the opposite sex...but yet I will touch them. I'll express the appropriate words, smile, and then affirm with my eyes and bow ever so slightly forward. In today's society, we all must be very careful how we exercise touch.